Dissolving Sexual Worker Dependence

~"Every Addiction arises from an unconscious refusal to face and move through Your Own pain. Whatever the substance you are addicted to - alcohol,food, legal or illegal drugs, People or Sex-You are using Something or Somobody to cover up Your Own pain."~

-Dissolving Sexual Worker Dependence- The Seminar


CASE 1: A 28-year-old homosexual man spent evenings "cruising" local parks, public restrooms for sexual contacts. This activity consumed several hours a day. His primary outlet was sex with multiple anonymous partners. When he learned that the majority of gay men in his city had tested positive for the human immunodeficiency virus (HIV), he began to worry constantly about his risk of contracting AIDS. Still, he was unable to change his unsafe sexual practices despite repeated promises to himself to do so.

CASE 2: A 52-year-old married minister had a 10-year history of sexual involvement with female parishioners who came to him for counseling. He experienced marital stress because he was often away from home in the evenings "counseling" rather than spending rime with his family. Overcome by remorse and guilt, he promised to break off with the women. However, he was unable to avoid new involvements. After several women came forward with their stories, the minister was fired, evicted from his church-owned house, and publicly humiliated. He and his wife moved away, where she supported them with her teaching income.

CASE 3: A 32-year-old woman from a rigidly religious family married an alcoholic. After 2 years of marriage, she became involved in what was to be the first of many extramarital affairs. To prevent detection by her husband, she withdrew from him emotionally and neglected the marital relationship. She recognized that she was not spending enough time with her children. Despite feelings of guilt, she did not seek help until she cheated on her new lover.

CASE 4: A 50-year-old married business executive neglected sales calls when out of town and visited massage parlors and prostitutes, despite knowledge that he was risking HIV infection. He was once an effective salesman, but his work performance suffered because of his sexual pursuits. He took alternative routes on trips in an effort to avoid massage parlors, but he was unable to control his urge to visit these establishments. His wife learned about his sexual activities when he was arrested for soliciting sex from an undercover policewoman posing as a prostitute. At that point, his marriage was in jeopardy, his children and friends shocked, and his job future uncertain.

HELP!! IAM ADDICTED TO HOOKERS

I have a serious problem and addiction to hookers. It started out as fun and spending a wild evening with the guys, but now i cant be a day without picking up a hooker and sometimes twice a day. I have been with a whole range of them from the $2000 high class to the $30 street hookers. Its ruining me not only emotionally but financially too. I just love the adventure and adrenaline involved with being with a hooker. Is There any kind of treatment for hooker addiction? Pls Help.

Why would seemingly balanced, rational and reasonable men go to great lengths and risks just for a momentary thrill?

~"Whoso is simple, let him turn and head in her direction, and as for him that lacks understanding, she said to him: 'stolen waters are sweet, and bread eaten in secret is pleasant'. But he does not know that the Dead are there...and that her guests are in the Depths of Hell."~

-Proverb 9:16

When sexual behavior is compulsive and continued despite serious adverse consequences, it is addiction. Sex addicts tend to sexualize other people and situations, finding sexual connotations in the most ordinary incident or remark. They spend great amounts of time and/or money in pursuit of a "quick fix." Any sexual behavior can be part of the addictive cycle: The context of the behavior must be considered to ascertain whether the behavior is compulsive. What is healthy sexual behavior for many people may be unhealthy for others, just as the use of alcohol causes no adverse consequences for most people but severe problems for some.

Sex addicts describe a euphoria with sex similar to that described by drug addicts with drug use. This may be an effect of endorphins and other endogenous brain chemicals, whereas the drug-induced state is externally produced. Milkman and Sunderwirth(6) have classified sexual addiction as an arousal addiction because its effects on the brain are similar to the effects of cocaine, amphetamines, compulsive gambling, and risk-taking behaviors. In contrast, addiction to alcohol, sedatives or hypnotics, and food are considered satiation addictions.

Like alcoholics and other drug addicts, sex addicts behavior engage in distorted thinking, rationalizing, and defending and justifying their behavior while blaming others for resulting problems. They deny having a problem and make excuses for their behavior.

~"It is a stroke of Good fortune to find One who is worth seducing...Most people rush ahead, become engaged or do other stupid things, and in a turn of the hand everything is over, and they know neither what they have won nor what they have lost."

-Soren KierkeGaard

~"They who are happy with What they have and Who they Are...are Not easily Seduced."~
-My Dad

On the basis of a survey of about 600 self-identified sex addicts, Sex addicts usually participate compulsively in more than one type of sexual behavior. For example, they may masturbate compulsively in addition to viewing pornography and patronizing prostitutes. Although some sex addicts are hyper-sexual, seeking sexual intercourse or orgasm several times daily, most are not. For the addict who has affairs, the euphoria may come from the thrill of the chase and conquest rather than £from the sexual experience itself. Many sex addicts report progression of their addiction; that is, they have to take increasing risks or try new sexual behaviors to maintain the same euphoric effect.

Sexual difficulties are common in families of sex addicts. The great majority of sex addicts (82% of almost 900 addicts in Carnes' survey had been sexually abused in childhood). Among the male addicts, 3% were forced to have sex by their fathers and 11% by their mothers. Others (41%) were abused by neighbors, business associates of their parents, or strangers, while 8% were molested by other adults in authority.

In some families, there was no overt incest, but a heightened sense of sexuality was present. Sexually explicit material may have been available, or sexual comments (eg, a father remarking on his daughter's anatomy) were made repeatedly. Privacy in the bathroom and bedroom may have been lacking. - Children who come from families that lack emotional support and nurturing tend to be vulnerable to sexual exploitation. Children who are sexually abused may grow up fearing sex, confusing sex with love, or believing that the only way to relate to others is sexually. Others may be troubled by "repetition compulsion," in which they become perpetrators of sexual abuse.

More than half of sex addicts surveyed come from a rigid, emotionally disengaged family. In such families, discussion of sex may be taboo or sex may be considered disgusting. As a result, children grow up lacking accurate information about sex and believing that sex is powerful and dangerous.

Like chemical dependency, sexual addiction is a family disease. Spouses of sex addicts, or "co-addicts," usually grew up in a dysfunctional family, where they acquired a set of core beliefs that resulted in low self-esteem and difficulty in relationships. They may believe that they are not worthwhile, that no one could love them for themselves, that they can control and are responsible for others, and that sex is the most important sign of love.

Spouses of sex addicts were often sexually abused in childhood and thus have fear or confusion about sex. They tend to be attracted to individuals who are needy, which describes most addicts. Co-addicts usually fear abandonment, often cannot imagine life without their partner, and are willing to accept behaviors that healthier persons may find unacceptable. For example, in a survey of 78 recovering co-addicts, 52 (66%) said that they had participated in sexual activities that they found uncomfortable. These included viewing pornography, swapping sexual partners, and having sex in public places.

~"I do not approach her, I merely skirt the periphery of her Existence...This is the First Web into which she must be spun."~

-Soren KierkeGaard

~"A person will desire any object so long as he is convinced that it is desired by another person whom he admires."~

-Rene Girard

Many coaddicts fear refusing sex; others use sex to control and manipulate. Those whose sexually addicted partner prefers other sexual outlets (eg, compulsive masturbation, hiring of prostitutes) may go for years with out conjugal relations, often at great cost to their emotional well-being. Since the sex addict's primary relationship is with the addiction, the partner justifiably feels unimportant and unloved.

All too often, couples who seek marriage counseling because of sexual problems are advised to add variety to their sexual repertoire or to do more to please each other sexually. Some marriage counselors may not understand that the sexual problems are an addictive pattern, not a marital issue. Often, the co-addict takes responsibility for the marital discord and fruitlessly works at finding a solution, as illustrated in the following case.

Case 5: A 36-year-old woman, the mother of three small children, was raised by a rageful alcoholic father and a dependent mother. She married a man who also had an alcoholic parent. Over the course of their marriage, he had multiple affairs. He denied the most blatant evidence of his philandering until she at times doubted her own sanity. Although she knew he was having sex with other women, she did not dare deny him sex for fear he would leave.

Frightened of confronting her husband and expressing her anger, she had bouts of depression and periods of overeating. During her second pregnancy, she contracted gonorrhea from her husband. Although she felt intense guilt about risking her fetus's health, she continued having sex with her husband. She expressed intense shame when she disclosed her home situation to her physician.

She became progressively obsessed with her husband's infidelity and would drive around town at night, with her three small children, looking for her husband's car. When she found his car-at a girlfriend's house-she would send one of the children to ring the doorbell and ask daddy to come home.Despite her recognition of how hurtful this behavior was to her children, she was unable to stop.

Eventually she sought counseling, joined a self-help group for spouses of sex addicts, and later divorced her husband.

In Life...Creating and Choosing Relationships is commonly done Irresponsibly and Unconsciously, and almost random procedure.

In This Seminar we will remove this Quality of Unconscious randomness, and Discover...Your Real, Until Now unknown, purpose in Being with a Particular person.

There are certain assumptions we have about Men ad Women of which we usually are not aware, and we live as If these assumptions were So True as not to rate conscious Review.
Instead of examining these assumptions...We Live them Out.

You will be shown the Unconscious methods You use to Create a person into Your Life, thereby leaving you with the ability to allow this to be done by Intention rather than by waiting for "It" to Happen..

The Power of Hearing these Items verbalized manifests itself in the freedom to Be how We are, as Women and Men.
Without apology. Without regret.

At the Core of our Lives...the Original Restriction in the Experience of Being Loved, is derived from the primal relationship with Parents.
Through Lecture, Process and Sharing...be Prepared to take the Relationship with parents to its Core.

Break Free from Your Dependence on Sexual Workers.

Take back Your Power to Transform your Reality.

Explore and Embrace Monogamy with a Renewed sense of Purpose.

This program is not for everyone...It may not Be for you, but for someone You Know...

Reach out and have a Conversation...

Choosing a Hypnotherapist to Stop Smoking and Regression Theraphy

Choosing A Hypnotherapist To Stop Smoking

There are still just a Few Hypnotherapists out there,Here in Aruba, so how do you find one that works for you?

When Should I See a Hypnotherapist?

If you are struggling with giving up smoking and feel you need a helping hand, then hypnosis may well help you. If you feel you just need that little bit extra to quit and become free from tobacco, then this could work for you.

Will It Work?
No hypnotherapist can Guarantee you that the session will work! Unfortunately, Hypnosis is not a replacement for the DESIRE to quit smoking. If you are going along looking for the Hypnotherapist to make you stop smoking then save your money.
Hypnosis will only work to supplement your willpower and help you to give up. If you go for hypnosis because you feel you ought to or because your partner/ family are pushing you to, then again, save your money and stay at home.

If you genuinely want to give up smoking and are willing to use some willpower then Hypnosis will more than likely work for you.

Where Can I Find A Hypnotherapist?

There are a number of ways you can do this:
* Contact a professional hypnotherapist body to find some in your area
* Look in the yellow pages
* Look in the local papers
* Ask friends / co workers for personal recommendations (this is the best method)
*You can Contact: G_Thode@yahoo.co.uk

What Can I Expect?
A stop smoking hypnosis session will last anything from an hour to two hours, depending on the therapist.
They will use a variety of different techniques and processes on you.
Usually it will involve entering trance, relaxed and altered states.
This is a simple process where you relax as if you were almost asleep. In Hypnosis you are in control the whole of the time, which is why you have to want the result. No hypnotherapist can make you do anything you don't want to do.

What Will They Charge Me?
The price varies greatly from therapist to therapist. It is probably a good idea to contact a few in your area to determine pricing. In the UK it can be anywhere for £40 to £500(and in the US that same rate is in Dollars $,and in Europe it's in Euro's) and beyond.
However, the price is no indication of quality in this case.
Anyone can charge any figure you want, which is why personal recommendation is always best.

How Will I Know They Are Good For Me?
Most Hypnotherapists will offer you a Free consultation before going for Therapy. Use this to ask questions and to get to know the therapist.
If you are not comfortable with them, then move on and find a different Therapist. Some questions you might want to ask are:
* What success rate have you had in the past?
* What follow up's do you offer?

And anything else you feel you need to know in order to be comfortable proceeding with the therapy.

What Qualifies Them?
There are three types of hypnotherapists:
1. Those who have done a Correspondence Course
2. Those who have solely trained in stopping smoking (sometimes they will have trained in weight control and stress management too)
3. Those who have taken a full training course, including practical experience
If possible, find one that falls into the third category.


No disrespect to the first two...I myself started with several correspondence Courses,and investing $1000's on every book on the Topic I could find, but Hypnosis requires interaction with people, so how can you learn it properly by post? I invested in doing Internships to get that practical experience while combining it with Vacation time.

I was lucky it was so much cheaper for me, being able to stay Free of Charge at many family homes(for weeks on end), because of Contacts I had created while working as a Tour Guide and Narrator for Atlantis Adventures for 8 years.
(The Practical application of Hypnosis in the Art of Tour Guiding is still sadly overlooked!)

As to the second category, sometimes the desire to smoke may be due to other issues in your life and as such, they will not be able to help you with anything else. Often this type of therapist will be inflexible in their approach due to their limited training.

Regression Theraphy

The Object of Regression or Analytical work is to discover the underlying cause of an individual's Symptom Pattern and Satisfactorily resolve the associated internal conflicts.
There are Two distinctly separate, though related, methods of achieving this that may be Employed:

1)Regression to Cause. Which seeks to follow a memory path down to the first time the symptom pattern or associated emotional response(or damage) was experienced, during the Originating Cause. For example; the first time you experienced the Emotion of Fear. Can You remember?
The Conflicts generated may then be worked through so that negative emotions may be released.

2)Free Association, the Freudian method of Analysis.
Here, the object of the therapeutic exercise is the same, but the route is far less direct, taking in a wider area of your Life and usually concentrating on Childhood.

Each system has its own particular strengths and weaknesses and the Professional Therapist should be familiar, practiced, and confident with both.

You can always check the Therapists Qualifications with the appropriate Professional bodies if you are in any doubt. Remember though that personal recommendation is the best possible way forwards with Hypnosis.

Finding Your Ideal Career

In the current climate, many people are looking away from the traditional job market towards working for themselves. The massive redundancies and job-insecurity has caused many people to radically rethink their career plans. With the ever rising cost of living, many would be happy just earning extra money to support their family and to pay the bills.

In this article, you will discover what you really enjoy in life and how to turn it into a money making opportunity, and perhaps even a full-time career. Your only limitations are those you impose upon yourself! At the very least, what you learn will help you to be happier with your current job.

First of all, a little exercise to get you started. Make a list of everything and anything you really enjoy and are passionate about. This can be anything at all, from playing with Lego through to planning projects or programming in Cobol. Write down everything you think of, no matter how silly or pointless you think it may be. They are all important and must be included on your list.

Go through the list and ask yourself whether you truly are passionate about each one. Ask the question, “If someone offered to pay me to do this, would I be happy?” If you would not, then cross it off your list.

Look at each item on your list and ask yourself what you enjoy about it. You may enjoy the peace and tranquillity of gardening, or the fast paced life style of project management. Write this down too by each item.

The why you enjoy it is very important because it gives you an insight into your inner workings. When you understand what it is that you enjoy about something, you can look at applying that quality specifically to your life and current job to improve your happiness. If you like peace and tranquillity but your job is hectic, you could take time out for a walk in a park or to meditate to bring into your job peace and tranquillity. You could make sure you take a lunch break and switch off your phone.

Once you have identified the things you are passionate about, write down next to each one how much time a month you currently spend doing them. You may love surfboarding but only manage to go once a month or you may be passionate about cooking yet have to live on fast food because of your lifestyle.

From now on, make a commitment to yourself to spend time doing the things you are passionate about every single month. You will find that not only does your level of happiness improves, but your energy increases and life feels so much better because you are doing things that you love.

Carry your list around with you for at least a fortnight, adding to it each time you think of something you are passionate about. Then repeat the process above for each new item, analyzing it and understanding what it is you like about it.

"We will either find a way, or make One..."-Hannibal

Whatever your current job situation, working for yourself can be a very appealing option. But the question is, ‘do you have what it takes to work for yourself?’ Not everyone does, but the good news is that the necessary skills can be learnt by anyone.

To successfully work for yourself you need to have all of the following skills to some degree. The better you are at each skill, the more chance you have of being successful on your own.

Motivation: You must be able to motivate yourself and to not rely on others to push you along. When you work for yourself, there is no boss telling you what you need to do, when you need to do it by, and providing you support and guidance when you need it. You are the boss! Working for yourself, it is all your responsibility. If you cannot take the responsibility, then you are best off staying in employment.

Belief: You must believe in yourself and in your business and / or product. It is very difficult to do well at something you do not fully believe in. Your belief and passion about what you do comes across to your customers. This has a positive effect in building their confidence and in turn, your business. Before starting any business or selling any product ask yourself if you believe in the product and business.

Development Time: It is important to spend time developing yourself and increasing your skills. Many technical people forget to develop soft skills, and vice versa. Aim to attend at least two courses or workshops a year. Also regularly read relevant books to develop these skills. You have to stay one step ahead of the competition in order to be a phenomenal success.

Determination: You must be determined to succeed and not to give up. There are times when it will be tough, but you are the boss and the one solely responsible for making it good again. You may get knocked back on occasion, but a true success just keeps on going in the face of set-backs.

Inter-personal skills: Working for yourself does not mean you will be locked in a room alone. You will often have to interact with other people; your customers. Good inter-personal skills will make this experience more rewarding and help you get the best from people. They will help ensure you have a successful business.

Communication skills: Both written and spoken communication skills are important. Often in the market place today, words are the key to the success of your business. Therefore, spend time developing your skills in this area - it will pay you back many times over to do so.

How many of the above skills do you currently have? Do you feel you are weak in any of these areas? If so, then strengthen them by attending courses or reading some relevant books. Being strong in all the above areas is not necessary for personal success, but will help to make it much easier.

Look at the list of things you are passionate about, and think about how the above skills can be applied to and compliment these.

Finding your ideal career

Now, back to the list of things you are passionate about. Take a new sheet of paper and write the first item on your list at the top of this new paper. Underneath it, brainstorm all the jobs you can think of that involve your passion. Let your imagination run riot and be as creative as you can. Each item you have written down offers you many possibilities. Also use the reasons you enjoy the item to help in this exercise.

Using gardening as an example, you could write down: gardener, author, teacher, TV presenter, landscape designer, tree doctor, and farmer, park ranger, and so on, just to mention a few.

Still on the same item from your list, write down all the ways you can think of to make money from it.

With our gardening example this may be growing and selling plants or vegetables, or doing gardening for people in your neighbourhood. There are of course many other opportunities here. Be creative and imaginative and think outside of your normal box.

Look at all these ways of making money and note the ones you can start right now and ones that you would really like to do. Perhaps you could start on one or two of these now, whilst still working in your current job.

Repeat the above exercise for each item that is on your list. Over the next few weeks keep adding to these lists. This exercise stimulates your mind to be creative, which results in creating many more great ideas – often when you least expect it, so make sure you write them all down.

The results of these exercises will be a list of what you enjoy doing, why you enjoy doing and a list of possible careers and money making opportunities that you would gain pleasure from. You do not have to make a massive move and quit your job right now. You can take your time, and slowly begin building your own business, or just earn a bit of extra money to help pay the bills whilst keeping your current job. You can also use this list to determine what career is best for you and begin planning a move to this new career.

Ask yourself the questions...

“Who would I Be If I knew No Limits?,”

"Who Would I Be if I Knew No Fear?"

"Who Would I Be if everything was Possible and Nothing was Impossible?"

The answer to these questions will help you determine and Identify which of the items on your list to pursue first. It is important not to spread yourself too thinly otherwise you may find that nothing ever gets done. Once you have decided which way to go you must do a goal setting exercise and work out your route to your target.

Reverse Engineering.

Pursuing your passion means living life to the full. It means waking up each morning and looking forward to working. It means more energy, more fun and feeling more alive. Sadly today many of us are working jobs we would rather not be doing. Perhaps it is time that you took advantage of the shifting economy and lived your passion instead of dreaming it?

The Origin of Genius.

~"As a man thinks so is He..."~Hebrew Proverb

Origin of Genius

Compared with him who has tradition on his side, Trapped in the Matrix of Social Conditioning, and requires no reason for his actions, the Free Spirit is always weak, especially in actions; for he is aware of too many motives and points of view and therefore possesses an uncertain and unpracticed hand.

How does the Free Spirit become relatively strong, so that he shall at least make his way and not perish?
How does a Strong Spirit come into Being?

It’s kind of like … Someone who has completely lost his way in a forest but strives with uncommon energy to get out of it again sometimes discovers a new path which no one knows…

Or The way in which a prisoner, with the greatest desire to free himself, uses his wits in search for a means of escape, the most cold-blooded and tedious employment of every little advantage, are the instruments we will make use of that can teach us how to bring into existence…

Genius…

A word I ask you to be understood without any flavor of the Mythological, Metaphysical or Religious…

It is now a fact that a mutilation, crippling, a serious deficiency in an organ offers the occasion for an uncommonly successful development of another organ, the reason being that it has to discharge its own function but anothers as well.
That is how those Geniuses come about who are famed for originality.
It is in this way one can suppose that many a glittering talent to have originated.

He is called a Free Spirit who THINKS differently from what, on the basis of his Origin, Environment, his Class/Caste and Profession, or on the basis of the dominant views of the Age, would have been expected of him.

He is the Exception.

The fettered and conditioned spirits are the Rule...

Sometimes you have got to ignore what anyone else tells you about your purpose.
Your Genius is in your very Existence…Awaiting the right circumstances to express itself!
Each of us must seek to go beyond our resignations, cynicisms, fear, doubts and disbeliefs, and dare to remove any resistance to actualizing your Genius.

What characterizes the Free Spirit is not that his opinions are the more correct but that he has liberated himself from Tradition, whether the outcome has been successful or a failure. He will at least have the Spirit of Inquiry after Truth.

Your Truth. Your Personal Legend. Your Vision.

In the case of the knowledge of Truth the point is whether or not You possess it.
Not from what Motives you first sought it, or along what Paths you found it.
Demand Reason and Faith of Yourself.

If anyone wanted to Imagine a Genius of Culture, a Social Genius…what would he look like?

For some…things may sound a little shocking and controversial beyond this point, but please bear in mind that I am trying to the best of my ability to articulate and describe something that is hard to describe, and in the process trying to simplify a complex Paradigm for the Masses to get a glimpse of…

And trying to do so free of mythological, metaphysical/spiritual and religious vocabulary& terminologies…
Demand Reason and Faith of Yourself…not of others.
We have nothing to expect of anyone but ourselves…

You must recognize that… get what you get…
It is Only Your Own. It is what you added unto whatever was told you.

And with this in mind, let us explore further the attempt to describe the external appearances of a Social Genius…

~”Definition is Creation”~ Anthony Robbins

You Create…by the Simple act of Defining…

Let that sink in and bounce around for while…

This Social Genius…this great Man of the Masses possesses all the qualities of the Masses, thus are they all the less embarrassed in his presence, thus he is all the more popular.
It is sadly true that he is violent, envious, exploitative, scheming, fawning, cringing, arrogant…but in his defense…all really according to circumstance.

~“To deny our impulses is to deny the very thing that makes us human”~ Mouse to Neo

Going deeper down the “Rabbit hole” we could describe him also as being able to manipulate falsehood, force and the most ruthless self-interests as his instruments so skillfully…that he could only be called an Evil demonic Being.

It is the way of this kind of Genius to avoid with passionate indignation everything that confuses and deceives us in our judgment of things, for he wants to give to each his own, whether that thing be dead or living, real or imaginary.
He seeks to set all views in the best light by illuminating it from all sides, and reveal a clearer knowledge of things.

But His Objectives…which here and there shine through…would be Great and Good.
He would be like a Centaur, half beast, half man, with Angels wings attached to his back and a Glowing Halo over his head…

One only has to take a few days studying the Life and Genius Works of Michael Jackson, and end your research with “This Is It!” to drive that point home, and dissolve your doubts in that description.

So Go…

Be Your Genius...

Be in Action in the World as the Living Breathing Manifestation of the Experience of the Talents & Works you were brought into this Earth to Do…

To Be…

Dare Something Worthy…

Who would You Be If You Knew No Fear?

Decisions. Decisions. Decisions.

When you look back there will be things you will regret.

You made the Wrong decision.

Wrong...

You made the Right Decision.

Life is about Decisions.

Am I going to have the practical car or the fast car?

Shall I go to College or get a Job?

Will I have Wine, Beer or Water?

Whatever Decision you make is the Only One you could make.



...Otherwise you would make a different One...

Everything we Do We Choose.

So what is there to Regret?

You are the Person You chose to Be...

Keeping Yourself Driven!

Let us Start off on the Right Foot By making some Wrong Decisions...

Steal.

Steal from anywhere that resonates with inspiration or fuels your imagination.

Devour films, music,books, paintings, poems, photographs,conversations,dreams,trees,architecture,street signs,clouds, light and shadows...

Select only things to steal from that speak directly to your Soul.
If you do this, your work(and theft)will be authentic.

Authenticity is invaluable.

Originality is Non-Existent.

Don't bother concealing your thievery - Celebrate it if you feel like it.

Remember what Jean-Luc Godard said:
'It's not where you take things from - it's where you take them to.'

Imagine

Every One wants an exciting Life, but most people are afraid to take the Bull by the Horns.

So they take an Easy Option for an Exciting Life.

They Live their excitement through other people.

By aligning themselves with famous rebels, a little bit of glamour rubs off on them.
They Imagine they're like John Lennon,Ernest Hemingway,George Best, Liam Gallagher, Lenny Bruce,Janis Joplin, Damien Hirst,Andy Warhol, Johnny Depp...

The Difference being, these people when faced with a decision took the outrageous One, not knowing were it might lead them, but knowing that the safe decision had danger written all over it...

Are You Being Reasonable?

Salomon Brothers, the well known New York Investment House, met with prospective clients not once a month, or once a day...But Three 3 Times a Day.

That is Unreasonable...

But it Works...

Most people are Reasonable, that's why they only do reasonably well.

~'The Reasonable man adapts himself to the World. The Unreasonable Man adapts the World to Himself. All progress depends upon the Unreasonable man.'~George Bernard Shaw

Do It, Then Fix It as you Go!

Too many people spend too much time trying to perfect something before they actually Do it.

Instead of Waiting for perfection, run with what You've got, and fix it as You go...

Beat This!

A Young Man worked as a runner for an advertising firm.

One day he said to his manager,
'I'm leaving. I'm going to be a Drummer.'

The Manager said, 'I didn't know you played the drums.'

He replied, 'I don't, but I'm going to.'

A few years later that young man played in a band with Eric Clapton and Jack Bruce, and it was called Cream, and the Young Man's name was Ginger Baker.

He became what he wanted to become before he knew he could do it.

He had a Goal.

Simply Change Your Life.

The World is what You Think of It.

So Think of it Differently and Your Life will change.



Final Thoughts.

For a Creative person starting out on a Career, try not thinking about film or media or whatever...

Think about Money.

It's Honest...

I stole this from Paul Arden.

He in turn stole it from Jim Jarmusch

Fear Fuelled Awakening.

"Need is the Mother of Invention. Desperation is the Father of Creativity."

The path that leads to heaven

When they asked Abbot Antonio if the path of sacrifice led to heaven, he answered:

- There are two paths of sacrifice. The first is taken by the man who mortifies the flesh and pays penance because he believes that we are condemned. The man who follows this path feels guilty and judges himself unworthy of living happily.

- The second path is taken by the man who, even though he knows that the world is not as perfect as we would like, prays, does penance and offers up his time and toil to improve the world around him. So he understands that the word sacrifice comes from Sacro Ofício, Holy Work. In this case the Divine Presence helps him all the time and he obtains results in heaven."

Breakdown. The Awakening.

That the World is not what it appears to be, is something all Religions have insisted upon.
Something that Myths have hinted at, and something that Science has finally established in this last Century, beyond all reasonable, or even unreasonable, doubt.

That perhaps the entire Western Civilization is playing the game of consensus reality whether they are aware of it or not.
And are playing by rules which they neither invented, nor even consciously agreed to.
In most cases, in fact, we are grossly unaware that such rules even exist.

"We are caught in the 'superstition of materialism'...the Hypnosis of Social Conditioning." ~ Dr.Deepak Chopra

Oddly enough, the ‘Matrix’ of consensus reality has been set up in such a way that it is necessary to first understand the rules before you can begin changing, bending,warping or breaking them.

An Option which the vast majority of humans never become aware of...

::::GROUPTHINK::::

Groupthink is a type of thought exhibited by group members who try to minimize conflict and reach consensus without critically testing, analyzing, and evaluating ideas.

Individual creativity, uniqueness, and independent thinking are lost in the pursuit of Group cohesiveness, as are the advantages of reasonable balance in choice and thought that might normally be obtained by making decisions as a Group.

During Groupthink , members of the group avoid promoting viewpoints outside the comfort zone of Consensus thinking.

A variety of motives for this may exist such as a desire to avoid being seen as foolish, or a desire to avoid embarrassing or angering other members of the group.

Groupthink may cause groups to make hasty, irrational decisions, where individual doubts are set aside, for fear of upsetting the groups balance.

The term is frequently used pejoratively, with hindsight...

~Inspired by Erykah Badu

Who would you be if you knew no Limits?

Who would you be if you knew you could not fail?

Who would you be if everything was possible, and nothing was impossible?

Who would you Be...If You were Fearless?


Almost everything we know argues...that Living powerfully is accomplished by skillfully building on the past.
We learn, expand, grow, building on our experiences, our education, our upbringing, our successes and failures.
We tend to look at what we do to determine who we are.

How we Perform in the present and what we see as possible in the future, then, are largely determined by how effectively we build on the past.
This Idea of building on the foundation of the past is so fundamental to our Thinking, that we can hardly imagine a reality Different from the Past...

Suppose, However...that Living Powerfully - Living an Extraordinary Life - works in Exactly the Opposite Way.
Suppose that the Possibilities available to us Today... are not those given by our past, but those given by our Future.

If You could be Free of your Past...Who would you Be?

We all get stuck in our belief systems, however sensible we think they are.
What we believe is not necessarily Real.

And with this in Mind I'd like to have a conversation with you...

Whether we believe in psychic ability, crystal energy, alien abduction, talking to the dead, or Christianity, we are rightly or wrongly buying into a very powerful belief system.

Its all about questioning...
As intelligent human beings we should be prepared to question our Beliefs.

But there are beliefs we are not encouraged to question... and these are often the Beliefs upon which we are asked to make important Life's decisions.
These are the areas where we should test and look for mis-information, because often we are making Life decisions based upon information we are getting from seeming authority figures representing different Religious Belief Systems.